So, while I haven’t kept track here, I have kept track elsewhere, mostly because I didn’t want to get my hopes up. But as I set out on this journey, I thought it might inspire someone else, so I wanted to give you an update.
Tuesday, March 12th, 2019
I am less than one week away from my consultation appointment at a fertility clinic here in town, and I am running in blind. I’m researching and listening to podcasts and reading stories and doing whatever I can do be as educated as possible before I step into that appointment.
I’m 31 years old. When I was 19, I made a promise to myself. After going through high school with no boyfriends to speak of, and then into my adult years with minimal boys to speak of, I knew one thing above all else: I was called to be a mother. I was called to carry a baby and see it grow. So, if no boys were around by the time I was 30, I would give myself a baby as a birthday present.
It’s a little late, yes, but I did have a prospect: my boyfriend Mr. Adorkable. But he wasn’t able to give me a baby, both because of his anxiety medication and his own conscience. With a history of being bipolar, depressed, and with high anxiety, he felt that passing on those genes to a child would be unfair. Plus, this was my dream. While he was great with children, neither of us knew how he would do being a father, since neither of us had great examples of what one should be like.
Mr. Adorkable and I weren’t always so ready to move forward with this, though. I didn’t know why he didn’t want kids, I felt like we couldn’t communicate. When he asked for a break spring last year, I was done waiting. I broke up with him, and cited wanting kids as one of my primary reasons – I was ready to start a family, and he, it seemed, was not.
The split didn’t last long, but it was healthy for us, as it opened up a lot of communication – he wanted to be a daddy, but not a father, which was a differentiation I understood all too well. So we agreed.
Which leads me to the appointment: I am going in to get started on the process of IUI, Intrauterine Insemination.
Monday, March 18th, 2019
My first appointment went well – it wasn’t quite what I was anticipating. There was no exam, just a series of questions and answers, mostly concerning my cycle, when I have my period and whether or not I ovulate. Due to the egg white cervical mucus, I do, which I let her know, but to ensure they know when, I have some blood work I have to do.
If everything turns out normal, I should be good to go for IUI my next cycle in April. I’m going to also be tested for my CMV status, which is important as if I’m negative, I need to have a negative donor, but my favorite donor is positive. Since I had chicken pox, I’m likely positive, but we’ll see.
I didn’t react to the appointment like I thought I would. I was quiet and nervous – I still am. I feel blank, like I know IÂ should be excited, but I’m not for some reason. Looking back, I think I am, but I’m also terrified. A lot can go wrong.
But a lot can go very, very right.
Thursday, March 28th, 2019
I had my blood work done on Monday, and I got the call on Tuesday – I hadn’t ovulated. This wasn’t entirely surprising, as my cervical mucus didn’t become egg white-like until the Saturday before. But, to make sure I’m ovulating the way they want me to, they’d like to wait for the IUI until May.
While I’m disappointed, I know it’s the most logical choice. I’ll be going on Clomid and they’ll likely get me on a trigger shot as well. And I’ll still have some blood work done again on this Saturday to see if I am ovulating, just later than anticipated.
If I’m not, I have no idea what I’ll do. Is my body deceiving me? Am I bleeding every freaking month for no reason? Please let it be for a reason. Please.
Monday, April 1st, 2019
I OVULATED, I OVULATED!
I never thought I’d be so happy for that! I got my results from my second bloodwork to test for Progesterone, and it came back at a 6.5. It’s not the 10-12 they prefer to see, which may mean that I just haven’t peaked yet. But I got a positive result which is amazing news. I was terrified for no reason.
So, we are still going to wait until May, as my doctor would like to pinpoint my cycle, I believe. So I’m going to call on Cycle Day 1 (first day of my period,) get blood work on Cycle Day 3, get a scan, and start in on the Clomid. I’m already taking Metformin, and I’ve heard many success stories between Clomid and Metformin, so that’s promising.
A problem I’m running into is that I know I need to be losing weight and getting healthy to carry the baby, as right now, my doctor would consider me a high risk pregnancy due to my BMI. 😦 I’m super sad about that, but my body is telling me I’m ready. She confirmed that.
Low carb again? Ughh. I’m so tired of low carb. It’s just so bland. *sigh* I need to bite the bullet, I know I do.
And I bought ice cream last night. Heh. :p